When I first began teaching in NYC, I was single with no children. Life was great! Life’s wonderful now, but you know what I mean. Even though I lived in NYC, I never saw anyone I worked with after 3p.m. No students, no parents, no colleagues, no one. I was able to switch off my teacher hat, with ease. With the hustle and bustle, and vastness of the city. Chances of bumping into anyone was very slim.
When I was single and childless, the good ole days, I rarely bought work home. I would usually opt to stay after work, to lesson plan, and tie up loose ends. I had no one to rush home too, my time was my own. If I bought work home, (which I rarely did, after all I was single in NYC) it didn’t infringe on any one.
Now that I’m a wife, and mother to two daughter, my how things have changed. I don’t stay after work any more. I have children to pick up and dinner to prepare. I bring work home now, and I usually work after my daughters are in bed.
I also live and work in the same town. It has its perks. For one, my commute is brief, which is great. Also, if I ever forget something at home, retrieving it is not a hassle. My daughters have a different opinion of this perk! If I’m out with my daughters around town, 9 out of 10 times, we’re running into someone from work. We see students in the grocery store, parents of students, in Walmart. It never fails. When my daughter hear, “Mrs. Dunbar, they cringe. I generally don’t mind, but my daughters are often not too happy. They feel as though it’s infringing on their time, family time.
Yes, sometimes we want privacy, but I look for the positive in any situation . My students and their families have the opportunity to see me and my family and that builds community!
I’m a teacher mom, with a daughter in the same grade that I teach. This can be very beneficial, but it has its drawbacks. My daughter is able to provide insight, from a child’s perspective. She is able to critique my planned lessons and activities. She lets me know what my students will love and what will be boring to a 10 year old. I love having her input, she’s usually right. The drawback to all this; she wishes I was her teacher. She loves hearing about the fun I have with my students. It’s hard for me as well. I want her school year to be just as exciting and memorable as I try to create for my students.
All in all being a teacher mom is great, even with the drawbacks. It’s a plus for my daughters and myself. As a teacher, I’m always educating. My daughters benefit from the knowledge I bring to whatever their learning at the moments. I love being able to extend their learning experience. It’s such a great feeling! Even though I’m not their classroom teacher. I’m the teacher after 3, and it’s beneficial to all of us!